By Now, I Thought I Would...

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By Now, I Thought I Would...

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Let’s face it, we have all experienced a waiting season. Perhaps you are still waiting for a promotion, a baby, or to buy your first home. Maybe you are in your forties, like me, still desiring marriage. The question is, what do we do during the wait?

The experience of waiting is universal; however, how we wait is key. Are we bitter? Do we blame God? Maybe the situation causes frustration. If I am honest, I was there. I vividly recall shouting to the Lord, "I KNOW you have a plan for my life, but would you give ME a clue?"

As I matured in my walk with the Lord, I realized that is where faith comes in. I had to ask myself, do I believe in God even though the circumstances looked bleak? Did I believe whatever I was waiting for would happen? What if God’s plan for our life does not include whatever it is we are longing for? How do we allow our boundaries to safeguard our thoughts? Here are a few ideas:

1. Practice Gratitude: While it's easy to focus on what we don't have, cultivate a habit of gratitude. Jot down three things you are grateful for each day, no matter how small. This shift in perspective will help you see the blessings in your life and reduce feelings of bitterness or frustration.

2. Embrace the Present Moment: Instead of constantly longing for the future, embrace and appreciate the present moment. Find joy in the little things and make the most of each day. Remember, life is not just about achieving specific milestones, but about the journey itself.

3. Trust the Process: Trust that everything is happening for a reason and that there is a divine plan at work. Surrender control and have faith that what is meant for you will come at the right time. Trusting the process can help ease anxiety and allow you to focus on personal growth and development.

4. Set Realistic Expectations: While it's important to have goals and aspirations, it's equally important to set realistic expectations. Understand that life doesn't always go as planned and that sometimes detours and delays are part of the journey. Be open to unexpected opportunities and have faith that they may lead you to something even better than what you originally desired.

5. Seek Support: Surround yourself with a supportive community or seek guidance from a mentor or coach. Sharing your journey with others who understand can provide comfort, encouragement, and valuable insights. Remember, you are not alone in your wait.

​Remember, life is full of unexpected twists and turns. While it's natural to feel frustrated or impatient during the waiting period, it's crucial to maintain a positive mindset and trust the process. Make the most of your wait and find inner peace and fulfillment along the way. Keep leaning into your faith and remember that your dreams may unfold in ways you never imagined.

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Meet Dr. Paula C. Perez 

CEO Of DrP & Me, LLC,
Author | Educator | Speaker | PK | Pastor's Wife |Saved Single-to-Spouse Support Coach

Dr. Perez is a top speaker and relationship coach with a B.S., M.S., C.A.S., and Ed.D. She is a SYMBIS certified Coach and , Nationally Board Certified Teacher who works with single women of faith, using her 4-STEP™ framework to help them enjoy this season as they prepare for the next by doing it God’s way.

She is married and lives in upstate New York.

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