On a recent Single Sister Sundays, I shared the importance of opening up to the possibility of love. But as a successful, single, Christ follower, in a world that tells you to show your boobs, go to a club, and have sex on the first night to catch a man, you may wonder how to attract and marry the love of your life God’s way. Believe me, you are not alone. Even if this information is not for you, read this article, share it, and then teach it to the singles in your life.

We must live according to God’s principles. By adopting a Christ-centered approach and incorporating these five keys into our lives, we can align our heart's desires with God's plan and manifest a loving, fulfilling relationship. Then, as the psalmist says, we can have the desires of our heart (Psalm 37:4-5)

1. Cultivate Self-Love:

The first key to attracting your ideal mate is to cultivate self-love. Embrace your worthiness and recognize the unique qualities that make you special. Prioritize self-care, nurture your passions and talents, and invest in personal growth. When you radiate self-love, you become a magnet for a partner who will cherish and appreciate you.

2. Clarify Your Vision:

Reflect on what you truly want in a relationship. Define your values, goals, and non-negotiables. Create a clear vision of what your ideal mate embraces, from their character traits to shared spiritual beliefs. Trust by combining love and spirituality, and aligning your vision and purpose, that God will bring the right person into your life.

3. Cherish Your Relationship with the Lord:

A thriving relationship with the Lord lays the foundation for a healthy partnership. Dedicate time to prayer and fasting. Seek His guidance, and surrender your desires to His will. Remember, this is a divine partnership. As you deepen your spiritual connection, you invite God to lead you on the path toward a Christ-centered relationship.

4. Commit to Authenticity and Vulnerability:

Authenticity and vulnerability are essential in attracting your ideal mate. Be true to yourself and embrace your authenticity. Share your joys, struggles, and dreams with others, including the Lord. Opening your heart and being vulnerable creates a space for genuine connections and paves the way for a deep and meaningful relationship.

5. Choose to Trust God's Timing:

Patience is key in attracting your ideal mate. Trust that God's timing is perfect, and He knows what is best for you. Use this time to focus on your personal growth. Always pursue your passions and continue to strengthen your relationship with God. I'm a witness that His timing is perfect. He will bring the right person into your life at the right moment. Remember, delayed doesn't mean denied!

Trust me when I say you can attract and marry your ideal mate. It is within your reach. To summarize, you can set the stage for a beautiful love story by incorporating these five keys:

1. Cultivating self-love
2. Clarifying your vision
3. Cherishing your relationship with God
4. Committing to authenticity and vulnerability
5. Choosing to trust in His timing

Stay faithful to your journey. Lean into your faith and know that God is with you every step of the way as you manifest the loving, Christ-centered relationship you desire. I'm praying for you too.

~ Dr. Paula C. Perez